Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Wedding Planning Woes....

Well, I'm almost there. The big day is only 17 days away! I'm so excited I can barely stand it!
I have been planning this wedding for over a year now. So long that I don't know what I will do with my time once it's done. And while the planning has been amazing, creative, and fun for me. It has also been stressful, time consuming, and tearful.
I went into planning from day one promising myself I was not going to be a bridezilla. I think for the most part I have accomplished that. I had a few moments when I freaked out. Although these moments were not directed at people around me more a mental meltdown on my part thinking I would never be able to accomplish everything I wanted and quite frankly very over whelmed.
I am a crafty person. When we started planning (by we I mean me) there was never any doubt that it would be a D.I.Y wedding. This is great. D.I.Y. wedding are amazing fun. The only thing is you need to allow yourself some room to breathe and be realistic in your planning and what you can accomplish. I am blessed to have some dear family and friends in my life to help me with this other wise everything would not be getting done. My whole wedding is handmade, everything from the veil and garter to the invites and programs, to the jam and dessert table. Everything is handmade.
So I would like to share a few things I have learned through out all my planning with you. Now remember, these are my thoughts and opinions only. There are many different ways to go about things.

1. Find a thorough checklist online and print it off. You will need this to help keep you on a time line when planning.
2. Buy a binder and stay organized. Having all the plans, contracts, lists, ideas, notes in one place will be a life saver to you.
3. Don't be afraid to change your mind alot in the beginning. Some time we plan out these grand ideas and in reality it may be harder than we thought. But don't be afraid to think the big ideas. It is your wedding and should be magical.
4. Having a D.I.Y. wedding can be cheaper. Even only a few D.I.Y projects can help take down cost.
5. Pick the 2 or 3 things that are really important right away and the rest will fall into place. It's hard to make everything as extravagant as you want. If you take the time to make the bigger pieces special the rest will be easier.
6. Don't feel like you need to be traditional. Its your special day and the wedding should represent you and your fiance.
7. Don't let others pressure you into things you don't want. This has been a bit of a battle for me. My wedding is very un-traditional and some people have tried pushing me towards what they think I should do. At the end of the day I'm going to do what makes me and Valdo happy and what reflects us.
8. Don't stress out. At the end of the day your wedding will be exactly what it's supposed to be and everything will work out as it was meant to. Don't make yourself crazy worry about it all. Take time to relax and actually enjoy the planning process.
9. If you don't get every last project done that you wanted don't worry. No one will ever know the difference. No one except you knows everything you had planned for. It will be perfectly fine if it doesn't all work out!
10. Not everyone is going to be able to attend. Don't worry or be upset! It's just the way it is. Everyone you love will be there and those who can't make it will be there in spirit, don't let it make you sad!
11. Don't be afraid to ask for help. My biggest thing was at first doing it all myself cause I'm controlling (lol) but then I realized my friends and family wanted to help and it felt great to let go of my worries and let them help us! They have been life savers!
12. Focus on the real meaning of the day. The fact that you are about to join your life with anothers forever. Not whether your cake turned out absolutely perfect. Not whether the flower petals are in the exact right spot on the tables. Focus on you and him.

Road Trip

Most of all Forget everything and enjoy the moments leading up to and during the big day! They will be what you remember when it's all over!


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