Wednesday, July 11, 2012

reminding me....

I was speaking to a friend of mine the other day. We were talking about meeting new guys, dating and life in general.
It was a deep conversation to some extent.
It made me think alot of things about alot of different things. I thought I might share a few with you today.

Our conversation reminded me just how wise Valdo is! How much I have learned from him in these seven years and how much more I still have to learn. I understand now how totally naive I was when I first met him. Seriously. Who knows who they are and what they want at 22? Not me. I'm 30 now and feel like I barely scratched the surface of all this. Who ever said your 20's were the best years of your life is nuts. All I did in my 20's was run around and cause trouble and be immature. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life or even how real life worked as an adult although I sure as hell thought I knew everything.
Valdo has taught me life isn't all rainbows and butterflies but that its okay that it's not. Without the bad stuff how would we be able to appreciate all the good stuff. He has shown me real, true, pure love is not like the movies. its sometimes messy, and sad. But it's real. It's loving someone day in and day out, despite their faults. Its the act of choosing to spend your life with someone. That is huge. Just ponder that for a second. The fact that we make a conscious decision to spend years and years with another person. That is so amazing. That is real love in its truest form. Something that I don't think alot of people really get. I mean really get.
This conversation also reminded how much my friends have taught me the last few years even though the ones I'm referring to I have never met. It is amazing how honestly we can connect with each other without any barriers or judgements we may have had in real life. For this I will be forever grateful! There is no way I can repay them for the lessons they taught me, the kindness and understanding they have showed me, or for the friendships that I know will last a lifetime.
Without them I would be a different person in a different place in my life right now. I have zero doubts about this. I owe them alot.
This conversation reminded me how I am learning and re-learning everyday! How I continue to love more everyday. How I am choosing to make the best out of everything everyday and stay in the positive.
It reminded me yet again how rare good girlfriends are and how when you find them show them they are important to you and be the best friend you can be. Work everyday at raising up the women in your life not putting them down.

I don't know if any this resonates with you, or all of it, but either way I felt I wanted to share what was in my heart today!



  1. Great post, Val. I agree with you on all of this!!! I'm happy for you that you have found great people to be around you in this wonderful life. 

    PS. Got the washi tape yesterday. :) !!

  2. Woohoo! I saw your gratidue journal post, I made one last year and it was fun! now you have an excuse to use your washi tape!
    and thank you! I'm happy and blessed also!